You may have noticed the mention of me seeing an OB in California starting in September. But I’m in Texas, why California? My international IP’s actually requested all the way back when we had our first interview in July 2014, whether or not my family would be willing to relocate to California for the third trimester, delivery, and a few weeks postpartum. After some brief conversation with my husband we agreed that we would be willing to do that. We are from the area and my husband’s company is there as well as the majority of my family (parents and siblings) and our friends. So it was actually a mutually ideal arrangement.
This past week we nailed down our temporary living situation with the help of HomeAway.com. I’m greatly relieved because that was stressful and difficult to find something that met our needs, especially as our time window was shrinking. Next logistics to cover will be to receive flight and car rental information from my coordinator at the agency. Meanwhile I am making smoke while writing lists for everything; to-dos and packing and dogs and home preparations for those watching over it. Needless to say the next three (ah?!) weeks will be pretty busy and highly productive. Updates going forward will be rolled into my weekly posts but I thought it would be better to have the initial post separate.
I should really start putting my blog posts as a calendar reminder on my phone… it started to dawn on me that I may have skipped a week but here I am posting nearly three weeks after my last one. Woops!
The follow up ultrasound had to be pushed out an additional week due to a family emergency that had us unexpectedly out of town for a week. This time I ate a little bit of trail mix on my way to the appointment to encourage the little guy to move around a little bit or at least be a little more cooperative if we needed him to move for a better angle on an organ. He did wonderfully! Full cooperation. 😀 There were some amazing images and the level of detail that can be seen on such small organs will never cease to amaze and fascinate me. The heart was so clear and beautifully functioning and I think my favorite part of the ultrasound. The tech also showed me a few other angles and explained that at this stage if there was a cleft lip you would be able to see it. I had no idea that could be detected so early now. Absolutely amazing. Surro boy had some great poses for the camera too, including in the first image below where he had the thinking man pose (fist on the forehead).
Think, think, think
3D, umbilical cord looped over right elbow, arms on either side of his face
The week while we were out of town I received a very sweet message from the IP’s asking for my input on the baby’s name. I didn’t expect it at all and it was such a gift and honor to be involved in that process. Coincidentally they had picked a name I was already rather partial too, a brother of mine, so it was a very easy approval on my part. But it was such a kind gesture that thoroughly made my day.
As my belly expands surro baby boy has had movement higher and higher in my abdomen. Every now and then he’ll surprise me with a sudden round house kick explosion out of nowhere that makes me jump from shock. I’ve also been able to see my belly move a few times if he has continuous movement and I’m sitting still. Which at this point is a bit of a rare combination. But it did happen yesterday while I was chatting with the IP’s so I took a picture of my belly from my point of view for them. 🙂
A funny and sweet story, my 2 year old was trying to use my belly button as a peep hole to see the baby and see what he was up to. When she couldn’t feel any movement she said “aww baby sweeping”. So sweet! And I love that they are involved and understand that we as a family are helping another family become whole.
This coming Monday is my last prenatal appointment with my Doctor here in the Austin, TX area. I can’t believe that is already here! My previous OB in San Diego, CA is expecting me for my next appointment at the end of September. I will write more about that in a separate post.
This past Wednesday was a big day! It marked 20 weeks pregnant, the half way point, anatomy ultrasound, and doctor appointment. The ultrasound went well but baby boy was being stubborn staying head and face down which was causing his spine to cast a shadow. As a result I will be going back next week for another ultrasound to get clearer images of a few vitals that we weren’t able to get.
Other than his stint of reenacting the dancing frog, surro baby is healthy and growing right along. He has been making his active self more and more known. My husband was able to feel one of the dance routines with his hand the other day. It seems so much earlier than with my own, but I have heard that with each one you notice things sooner. Just like my daughters though, I can almost tell what time it is at night by the level of activity I’m experiencing. Right around 10:30 pm he tends to go a little crazy, practicing his soccer kicks and dance moves.
Braxton Hicks also started up around 19 weeks, but I was expecting that based on my previous pregnancies. Apparently my uterus really likes to be well toned for D-Day. It must be why my deliveries are so speedy!
I will be having one more appointment with my doctor here in Texas before going back to my OB/GYN in California. More on that topic later but long story short I am having a rather unique first surrogacy journey that includes temporary relocation.
- She’s got working taste buds.
- Now, she’s gulping down several ounces of amniotic fluid each day — that’s significantly more than before.
Pregnancy Symptoms at 20 Weeks
- Vaginal discharge. You can expect this to keep increasing until delivery.
- Leg cramps. Be sure to do stretches and drink plenty of water.
- Heartburn and/or indigestion, as baby starts to crowd your digestive sytem.
- High energy — and libido (grrr)
- Mild swelling. Don’t worry. This should subside after delivery. In the meantime, put up your feet.
- Shortness of breath. As your uterus expands, it pushes against your lungs.